PREAMBLE

William Shakespeare in Act V of his “Macbeth” wrote:

“Life is but a walking Shadow, a poor Player That
struts and frets his Hour upon the Stage,
And then is heard no more;
It is a tall tale, told by an Idiot,
full of Sound and Fury, Signifying nothing."

If we accepted this concept, then Life loses all its meaning and we are reduced to a pathetic, sorry state where, as many do believe, we are born, we live and die without any reason, any purpose.

I completely reject this position. To me, life is not a random series of transient, overlapping, unrelated experiences, destined to be consigned to oblivion upon completion. I believe instead, life is a precious expression of a greater plan in which our time spent on earth is but a short segment of a journey which began in eternity and will continue to eternity.

Throughout history this question has been the subject of much philosophical, scientific and theological speculation. There have been a large number of differing, conflicting and diverging answers reflecting the various cultural and ideological backgrounds, clearly indicating the true complexity of the problem. In my opinion, there will never be an answer that will satisfy every one, and so it should be. In the end, each one of us must arrive at our individual position and as such apply this to the expression of our own life. For it is only by understanding our own self, can we really appreciate the true meaning of our life.

For me, one of the most eloquent, complete and comprehensive description of Life and it's purpose, is this description by Mother Teresa:

“Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is a beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it. Life is a challenge, meet it.
Life is a duty, complete it. Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it. Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it. Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it. Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it. Life is life, fight for it!”

With this in mind, in this blog I propose to briefly deal with random aspects of life as I have experienced them along the way. It is certainly not meant to be a guide for you to follow, but rather a reference that you may use as you see fit. I will also include quotations specially selected for each subject because of their impact upon me, and for no other reason.

I welcome your comments, criticisms and suggestions and active participation.

Sunday, May 29, 2011

LIVING WITH TIME

"Time is free, but it’s priceless.
You can’t own it, but you can use it.
You can’t keep it, but you can spend it.
Once you’ve lost it, you can never get it back.”



The above statement recorded by the respected and very successful American author, speaker and businessman, Harvey Mackay, very appropriately describes the real dilemma of Time as he addressed one of the great imponderables of our world.
Time, like so many intangible assets such as “Heat” and “Light”, are commodities that are recognized only by the changes that occur, and can be measured only in relative terms. They are in constant change and cannot be contained or retained. There are no absolute terms to describe Time and our concept of time is based on a comparative evaluation of changing events, whether these be, the moving hand of a clock, the changing effect of a thought or a word, or any other movement perceived or imagined.
Strictly speaking Time does not have a beginning, since there can be no absence of time, and no end, time is eternal. Any attempt to demonstrate this will be as fruitless as trying to demonstrate the existence of “darkness” or of “coldness”, without identifying them as the absence of light or heat. All these phenomena are universal constants that have no boundaries and therefore cannot be conceived nor measured except in relative terms. In scientific terms, there is a certain endless quality to time which is so intricate and unique that even the most inspired and knowledgeable person will not readily comprehend.
However one views this scientific aspect of time, it is abundantly clear nonetheless, that in life, time occupies a most fundamental and profound place. Time is the very foundation of life and absolutely nothing is done nor can be done without its direct influence. St. Augustine of Hippo, the great Christian philosopher and theologian, described this concept most effectively in the following quotation:


What then is time?


If no one asks me, I know what it is.


If I wish to explain it to him who asks,


I do not know."


All of us, singularly and collectively, have our own concept of time which we use to manage our lives and which to a very large extent determines our behavior. This single observation plays the greatest role in the deep chasm that exists between the attitudes, writings, and perceptions of the different cultures and go a long way to explaining why there seems to be no way of resolving them. It often becomes an exercise in futility to try to get these cultures into some degree of uniformity.
In the Western, Anglophile cultures, with its logical , linear and sequential approach, time is generally viewed in quantitative terms, to be measured in units, used to assess progress or movement, and ultimately, provide a direction toward a future. We approach it with an experience-based attitude, focusing on the present with a projection toward a presumed future. The past is but a memory and plays no role in the present time. This approach is often referred as Monochromic, characterized by a rigid, single item commitment with predictable time planning and results. Traditionally these include Great Britain, North America and Japan.
In the Eastern and Latin cultures, with a more generalized, circular and reactive approach, time is considered to be an integral part of life’s continuum, where the past, present and future are essentially intertwined and to some extent, interchangeable. These are often categorized as Polychromic, preferring multiple items without commitment and a higher degree of distractibility. These include the peoples of the Far East, Middle Eastern Arab countries and Latin countries of Europe and South America.
Most people have pre-formed assumptions about the use of time and what constitutes acceptable standards, and often use this as a map to their living. It is no surprise therefore that it constitutes a very powerful influence on all aspects of our life including how we think and project and act and react, often without our conscious knowledge or awareness.
These attitudes are not inherited, but learned through the cultural influences in which they develop. The evidence is compelling that people’s attitudes change in relation to the culture in which they develop and it is not unusual to find that the children of monochromic families quickly acquire the polychromic attitude even within a single generation after relocating. This change often becomes an early source of disagreement and conflict within the families and gives rise to a great deal of misunderstanding.
As a society, we generally do not have the correct emphasis to this very fundamental factor and take for granted that people should be able to accept our behavior without question. Especially in recent times, with the appearance of the “social interactive sites” such as Face book and You tube, the world is suddenly opened up like never before, and only time will tell whether this will result in a better understanding or further deterioration among the world’s cultures.
In the end, we are individually and collectively, left to witness the ultimate changes which will inevitably occur, fully aware that whatever happens, the words of the great Roman Poet, Horace, will always be true:




"Time will bring to light whatever is hidden;


It will cover up and conceal what is now shining in splendor."



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Everything happens to everybody sooner or later;
-If there is time enough.
…..George Bernard Shaw

It was the best of times,
It was the worst of times.
…..Charles Dickens

Time is the great physician
…….. Benjamin Disraeli

Time is the wisest counselor of all.
....... Pericles

We are all prisoners of Time.
We cannot escape it;
We cannot stop it.
…..Author Unknown

Men talk of killing time,
while time quietly kills them.
…….Dion Boucicault

The two most powerful warriors
are patience and time.
…..Leo Tolstoy

Time is the reef upon which
all our frail mystic ships are wrecked"


……. Sir Noel Coward

Time is what we want most,
but what we use worst.
......William Penn

“Time is but a stream I go a-fishing in.
I drink at it: but while I drink I see the sandy bottom,
and detect how shallow it is.
Its thin current slides away, but eternity remains”


……Henry David Thoreau

Time stays long enough
for anyone who will use it.
…..Leonardo da Vinci

Time is money.
…..Benjamin Franklin

Sunday, May 8, 2011

LIFE WITH FATE

The headlines in today’s Sports Section of the morning newspaper attracted my attention. Not so much because it announced the results of yesterday’s Kentucky Derby, but rather the sequence of events leading up to it. Consider the following events which took place:
-The winning jockey was offered the mount only the night before when his original mount,
which was considered to be the overwhelming favorite, was scratched because of illness.
-The jockey who was originally assigned to the subsequent winner was forced to withdraw
because of an injury he sustained the day before.
-The winning horse was only entered by his trainer after his stable mate, supposedly a much better horse, was withdrawn.
-The winning horse had not raced for more than 6 weeks and had never raced on a dirt track, having been bred as a “grasstrack” racer.

The newspaper correspondent summed this whole sequence in the following terms:

“Perhaps the formula for victory was taking two guys with the worst luck and putting them together with a horse that has never run on dirt.”

The winning jockey, who himself had in past three years experienced deep disappointment when all the mounts to which he was assigned and which were all considered to be unbeatable, were scratched because of illness or injury, was somewhat more philosophical when he offered the following explanation:
“Things happen for a reason. I guess when it is meant for you, it is meant for you.”

As I read this, I was reminded of a statement I had come across sometime ago as part of a contribution written by “Rochelle” of Austin, Texas on the This I Believe series conducted by National Public Radio:

“This I believe, that all things happen for a reason. I believe that we must take

the bad with the good, and that sometimes unanswered prayers are God's

greatest gifts, and faith is the solution to all our problems.

We as humans can do nothing but live in the present. We cannot see what is

to come in the future and can only guess and attempt to make the right choices.

When bad things cross our paths, I believe it is for a reason,

whether that is to build character or to teach us some kind of lesson.

All unfortunate events are accompanied by some sort of positive consequences.

Even tragedies like September 11th, can reap positive outcomes.”

I believe there must be some truth in what they are alluding, and although there are large numbers of very learned people who will have no hesitation to disagree, I myself will tend to favor their view. Not unlike the Arab tradition, which places great store on the role of Fate (“Naseeb”) in all aspects of their lives. They believe there is a certain inevitability or finality in events as they unfold and that, irrespective of our plans or expectations; they will work themselves out in the end.
The great German philosopher, Friedrich Nietzsche, a strong proponent of influence of Fate, coined the Latin term, Amor Fati, which he described as “Love Your Fate, which is in fact your life." He expanded this view in the following quotation:

“The duty of acceptance in all that concerns the will of God,

whatever it may be, was impressed upon my mind as the first

and most necessary of all duties from the time when I found it set

down in Marcus Aurelius under the form of the ‘amor fati’ of the Stoics.

I saw it as a duty we cannot fail in without dishonoring ourselves.”
To Nietzsche, Fate represents an attitude in which one sees everything that occurs in one’s life, including good and bad, joy and sorrow, success and failure or pain and suffering, as a fulfillment of God’s ultimate plan and therefore should be considered beneficial and acceptable. He advocated an acceptance, without question, of the events or situations which occur during one’s lifetime.

But to me Fate is not synonymous with Destiny, although most people seem to think that the words are essentially interchangeable. As I see it, although Fate relates to a fixed sequence of events usually occurring outside the influence of the individual, and resulting in changes that are inevitable or unchangeable, it does not however preclude nor exclude the fact that Fate can be altered or modified by the actions of the individual. The jockey, for example, would not have been successful and therefore Fate would not have applied, had he not accepted to ride that horse in the race. Gloria Estefan, the successful Latin-American pop singer, expressed this accurately when she stated:

“We seal our Fate,
with the choices we make.”

On the other hand, Destiny relates to a sequence of events related to the future and although they may appear to be unalterably predetermined from an external source, it is subject to alteration depending on the choices made by the individual. This leads on to the often confusing argument that individuals can choose their own destiny by selecting different "paths" throughout their lifetime. Even though, in fact, the different courses of action the individuals take nonetheless will lead to a predetermined destiny. William Jennings Bryan, the celebrated American politician and presidential candidate, described this situation most succintly in this manner:

“Destiny is not a matter of chance;
it is a matter of choice.
It is not a thing to be waited for;
it is a thing to be achieved.”


In the final analysis, whether it was Fate that determined the sequence of events that led the trainer to invite the jockey to ride the particular horse to victory, or Destiny, that predetermined the several unique circumstances necessary to come together beforehand, that ultimately resulted in success, the final victory occurred as a result of the brilliant execution of the jockey as he guided the well-prepared horse to victory.

I can think of no better way to describe the fundamentals of this dilemma than to quote from the great Lord Buddha, one of the world’s greatest spiritual leaders and founder of Buddhist Religion:

“I do not believe in a fate that falls on men, however they act;
But I do believe in a fate that falls on them, unless they act.”


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Fate is nothing but the deeds committed in a prior state of existence
……. Ralph Waldo Emerson

Men are not prisoners of fate,
but only prisoners of their own minds
……. Franklin D. Roosevelt

It is what a man thinks of himself,
that really determines his fate.
……. Henry David Thoreau

As punishment for my contempt for authority, fate has made me an authority myself.
…….. Albert Einstein

Fate leads the willing, and drags along the reluctant.
…….. Seneca

Fate is not a matter of chance; it is a matter of choice.
It is not a thing to be waited for; it is a thing to be achieved.
………William Jennings Bryan

When Fate hands you a lemon, try making lemonade.
….Dale Carnegie

There is no Fate but your own Fate.
……Leslie Grimutter

Control your Fate, or someone else will do so.
…..Jack Welch

Fate has two ways of crushing us;
-By refusing our wishes, or by fulfilling them.
…..Henri F. Amiel

Go with your Fate, but never beyond;
Beyond leads to dark places.
……Mary Renault

There is no Fate that cannot be surmounted by scorn.
….Albert Camus

What separates the winners from the losers,
Is how a person deals with each twist of Fate.
…..Donald Trump